If you're like most guys in the West, you're probably unnerved to learn that the women you find most attractive are also the ones you're most likely to get pregnant. Surprise! Evolution works.
(I kind of enjoy watching guys squirm when I tell them that - just like they learned in Bible class - sex really is all about making babies, and it all makes a lot more sense when you start looking at it that way. It's one of those truths that people used to be comfortable about, but now they aren't, yet it isn't any less true. Ah well, the world goes on)
Anyway, you can fight the knowledge that, much as you may dread the prospect of having a drooling, smiling, 15-pound poop-machine all your own, that's really what your body wants to have you make happen to your life, or you can accept it, understand why you want the things you want and why the men and women around you want the things they want, and plan accordingly. Personally, I'm for the latter. Knowledge is power, I always say, and acceptance of knowledge is king.
But how do you use the information in this post to get girls?
Well, first off, you need a look at yourself. Are you:
1. A sexy man women can't keep their hands off, or
2. A man who hasn't quite figured the sexy thing out yet?
If you're A), you'll have an easier time going head-to-head with the competition for fertile women in nightclubs, though it's still going to be tough because there's often going to be a lot of it. If you're B), you can all but forget about out-competing sexy men until you get sexiness figured out - however, if you can take the emotional beating and not come out too scarred, going head-to-head with men who are out-competing you is going to be highly educational - pay attention to the men the women you want choose, and ask yourself what they're doing and how they're presenting themselves, styling themselves, and acting differently from you are.
Now, the first thing you might think if you are a sexy guy is, "Well, gosh, I'm sexy, and I'm pretty skilled socially - if I just go out and out-compete every other guy out there, I'll get the girl!"
But... not so fast.
I've found a few things in my years in the trenches (bars, parties, and clubs) that might surprise you, and might save you hours upon hours of frustrating lost time. We'll get to other avenues to meet fertile, lusty women in a moment besides nighttime venues, but I want to touch on these.
While women are more receptive to men while they're fertile, they also seem to be far less forgiving. Never will you meet a harsher judge than a horny woman. One major slip up - or even a minor one, sometimes - and you're done.
Does that mean there's no hope with them?
Nope, not at all. It just means, drum roll... you've got to minimize the time you spend GAMING them!
But how do you do that?
Well, you do it by pulling fast, or coming late. I'll explain.
If you've been exploring the nightlife with any regularity and you haven't been going regularly for the whole night (open to close), then you've probably been missing a lot of patterns.
Namely, that many women are a lot more open to meeting new people at the start of the night, and they can be quickly pulled then, or locked into a conversation early on and you're their "guy" for the night (assuming you don't take too long to take them home... do that at your own peril).
And, many women are testy and short-tempered but open to being pulled by a strong man at the end of the night, too.
But a whole lot of women won't do anything other than evaluate, evaluate, evaluate throughout the entire middle part of the night.
That means, if you're showing up for the middle part of the night - or you didn't do such a hot job meeting girls early on at the outset - you're probably going to have a long night ahead of you of competing with one guy after another after another for the girl you're talking to. She's not going anywhere, which means now she's going to take her time to see how well you compete with the other men who are approaching her.
And what happens when you've got an entire night to defend your prize? Well, a few things:
1. There's a good chance you get tired and worn out and start slipping up
2. There's a good chance you start looking needy by hanging around with this girl who's forcing you to compete for her
3.There's a good chance that, no matter how good you are, some guy comes along and out-competes you for that girl you just plowed two hours into "working on"
I went through this countless times before I adopted the mantra of "move faster with women." Trust me... it ain't fun. Fun for the girl, of course... she gets to evaluate tons of options, and leaves feeling like she got the best guy (the one who out-competed all the other ones). Some of that is skill, some of that is chance. You want to remove chance from your interactions as much as possible, at least once you're reasonably skilled.
It's kind of like being a good gambler at a casino. I don't care how good you are, if you stick around long enough, somebody's going to beat you. And unlike the casino, you don't get to play another hand at the same table after you get beat; and you don't get to keep any chips to cash out. You lose once with a girl, you're wiped out.
The good news is... when women want sex, they don't want to hang around and chit-chat! They want a guy who knows how to attract women who's going to flip their switches fast, then get them out of there... because remember, they want sex!
That may be hard to believe when you're just starting out. But believe it, yes - just like you, women are biological organisms, and just like you they need to make babies. Sex is how they do that, thus, they are driven to want it. Don't let culture's tendency to build sex up into some "big deal" scare you into thinking otherwise - it's only a big deal because you're deciding whom you want to recombine genes with and spend a lot of time and money raising your offspring with (from a biological / sociological point of view).
Get there early, or get there late, and whatever you do, move fast.
But wait - what if you're not sexy yet, or you don't really feel like braving the nightclub (and all the competition for those flashy, lustful women)?
Never fear - day game is here.
But wait, you say - do women want sex in the daytime too?
Well, let me ask you this - do you think they only ever ovulate at night?
Walk around outside and pay attention to the women you walk by. Chances are, you'll pass by at least a few women who give you a hard stare. (You should probably go meet those women)
If you don't get looks from women, then you need to work on your style - the focus should be "sexy" and "edgy." Don't think that's you? Well, is being attractive to women you? Most guys will tell you, "I want to be attractive to women, and still dress how I want!" Okay, that's doable - but you've got to do other work to compensate for the lack of sexy attire. That means a sexy haircut, cool facial hair, and a good, cut build. Don't want to do that? Then let me ask you how many women you're interested in who don't bother to get sleek haircuts, good fashion, have a good body, and move well and sexy with great posture. Uh-huh, right... thought so.
Day time is a great place to meet women, and women will signal they're receptive to you much of the time. Pay attention to proximity clues (standing around you, looking in your direction then looking away), eye contact, even clothing (women are more likely to wear red when ovulating, and are also perceived as being 12% more attractive and 17% more sexual by men when in red).
And when you meet a woman in the daytime, and you can tell she's very interested in you, should you then move slowly?
Nope, not a chance. Treat her the same as a girl you'd meet in any other environment - get her home with you fast, if at all possible. And if she's out and about and has to get back to work, or has some other unbreakable commitment - do as Ricardus recommends in his tips on how to sleep with girls more consistently - ask her what she's doing later that day (and invite her to do something then).
Just make sure if you go back to her place that her jealous, overly-territorial boyfriend isn't there waiting for you.
(I kind of enjoy watching guys squirm when I tell them that - just like they learned in Bible class - sex really is all about making babies, and it all makes a lot more sense when you start looking at it that way. It's one of those truths that people used to be comfortable about, but now they aren't, yet it isn't any less true. Ah well, the world goes on)
Anyway, you can fight the knowledge that, much as you may dread the prospect of having a drooling, smiling, 15-pound poop-machine all your own, that's really what your body wants to have you make happen to your life, or you can accept it, understand why you want the things you want and why the men and women around you want the things they want, and plan accordingly. Personally, I'm for the latter. Knowledge is power, I always say, and acceptance of knowledge is king.
But how do you use the information in this post to get girls?
Well, first off, you need a look at yourself. Are you:
1. A sexy man women can't keep their hands off, or
2. A man who hasn't quite figured the sexy thing out yet?
If you're A), you'll have an easier time going head-to-head with the competition for fertile women in nightclubs, though it's still going to be tough because there's often going to be a lot of it. If you're B), you can all but forget about out-competing sexy men until you get sexiness figured out - however, if you can take the emotional beating and not come out too scarred, going head-to-head with men who are out-competing you is going to be highly educational - pay attention to the men the women you want choose, and ask yourself what they're doing and how they're presenting themselves, styling themselves, and acting differently from you are.
Now, the first thing you might think if you are a sexy guy is, "Well, gosh, I'm sexy, and I'm pretty skilled socially - if I just go out and out-compete every other guy out there, I'll get the girl!"
But... not so fast.
I've found a few things in my years in the trenches (bars, parties, and clubs) that might surprise you, and might save you hours upon hours of frustrating lost time. We'll get to other avenues to meet fertile, lusty women in a moment besides nighttime venues, but I want to touch on these.
While women are more receptive to men while they're fertile, they also seem to be far less forgiving. Never will you meet a harsher judge than a horny woman. One major slip up - or even a minor one, sometimes - and you're done.
Does that mean there's no hope with them?
Nope, not at all. It just means, drum roll... you've got to minimize the time you spend GAMING them!
But how do you do that?
Well, you do it by pulling fast, or coming late. I'll explain.
If you've been exploring the nightlife with any regularity and you haven't been going regularly for the whole night (open to close), then you've probably been missing a lot of patterns.
Namely, that many women are a lot more open to meeting new people at the start of the night, and they can be quickly pulled then, or locked into a conversation early on and you're their "guy" for the night (assuming you don't take too long to take them home... do that at your own peril).
And, many women are testy and short-tempered but open to being pulled by a strong man at the end of the night, too.
But a whole lot of women won't do anything other than evaluate, evaluate, evaluate throughout the entire middle part of the night.
That means, if you're showing up for the middle part of the night - or you didn't do such a hot job meeting girls early on at the outset - you're probably going to have a long night ahead of you of competing with one guy after another after another for the girl you're talking to. She's not going anywhere, which means now she's going to take her time to see how well you compete with the other men who are approaching her.
And what happens when you've got an entire night to defend your prize? Well, a few things:
1. There's a good chance you get tired and worn out and start slipping up
2. There's a good chance you start looking needy by hanging around with this girl who's forcing you to compete for her
3.There's a good chance that, no matter how good you are, some guy comes along and out-competes you for that girl you just plowed two hours into "working on"
I went through this countless times before I adopted the mantra of "move faster with women." Trust me... it ain't fun. Fun for the girl, of course... she gets to evaluate tons of options, and leaves feeling like she got the best guy (the one who out-competed all the other ones). Some of that is skill, some of that is chance. You want to remove chance from your interactions as much as possible, at least once you're reasonably skilled.
It's kind of like being a good gambler at a casino. I don't care how good you are, if you stick around long enough, somebody's going to beat you. And unlike the casino, you don't get to play another hand at the same table after you get beat; and you don't get to keep any chips to cash out. You lose once with a girl, you're wiped out.
The good news is... when women want sex, they don't want to hang around and chit-chat! They want a guy who knows how to attract women who's going to flip their switches fast, then get them out of there... because remember, they want sex!
That may be hard to believe when you're just starting out. But believe it, yes - just like you, women are biological organisms, and just like you they need to make babies. Sex is how they do that, thus, they are driven to want it. Don't let culture's tendency to build sex up into some "big deal" scare you into thinking otherwise - it's only a big deal because you're deciding whom you want to recombine genes with and spend a lot of time and money raising your offspring with (from a biological / sociological point of view).
Get there early, or get there late, and whatever you do, move fast.
But wait - what if you're not sexy yet, or you don't really feel like braving the nightclub (and all the competition for those flashy, lustful women)?
Never fear - day game is here.
But wait, you say - do women want sex in the daytime too?
Well, let me ask you this - do you think they only ever ovulate at night?
Walk around outside and pay attention to the women you walk by. Chances are, you'll pass by at least a few women who give you a hard stare. (You should probably go meet those women)
If you don't get looks from women, then you need to work on your style - the focus should be "sexy" and "edgy." Don't think that's you? Well, is being attractive to women you? Most guys will tell you, "I want to be attractive to women, and still dress how I want!" Okay, that's doable - but you've got to do other work to compensate for the lack of sexy attire. That means a sexy haircut, cool facial hair, and a good, cut build. Don't want to do that? Then let me ask you how many women you're interested in who don't bother to get sleek haircuts, good fashion, have a good body, and move well and sexy with great posture. Uh-huh, right... thought so.
Day time is a great place to meet women, and women will signal they're receptive to you much of the time. Pay attention to proximity clues (standing around you, looking in your direction then looking away), eye contact, even clothing (women are more likely to wear red when ovulating, and are also perceived as being 12% more attractive and 17% more sexual by men when in red).
And when you meet a woman in the daytime, and you can tell she's very interested in you, should you then move slowly?
Nope, not a chance. Treat her the same as a girl you'd meet in any other environment - get her home with you fast, if at all possible. And if she's out and about and has to get back to work, or has some other unbreakable commitment - do as Ricardus recommends in his tips on how to sleep with girls more consistently - ask her what she's doing later that day (and invite her to do something then).
Just make sure if you go back to her place that her jealous, overly-territorial boyfriend isn't there waiting for you.
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