8 Moves She Wants You to Make During Foreplay

Like working out, sex can be bad–and possibly dangerous–if you both parties haven’t warmed up properly. We know you are desperate to get to the good stuff, but foreplay can be good, too. If you take the time and make the right moves, you will find yourself loving the pre-game as much as you do the grand finale. However, there is more to foreplay than first, second, and third bases. We spoke to real women to find out how to make foreplay creative and exciting, and what moves really get her going.

1. Talk to Me

I love a dude who can communicate during foreplay. Moaning and groaning is cool, but dirty talk is fun for both parties and typically you end up getting more/less of what you actually want in the bedroom when you can be vocal about it in a playful way. It’s a great way to get me going. –Kelly,

2. Pay Attention to the Twins

It sucks when they don't spend enough time on breasts. Most men seem more than happy to spend a good amount of time on other foreplay activities and areas, but they kind of just see the boobs, give them a quick once over, and then move on, rarely to return. It's very sad. Give them more loving, we like it! –Jessica,

3. Be Gentle
I've had a few just dive right in and try to just click away on my clit like it's a computer mouse--like first thing, before I'm even undressed. One guy got so rambunctious with his fingers that I felt like I was hooking up with Jack the Ripper. Relax, guys, it’s a turn on. –Stephanie, 28

4. Undress Me
The act of undressing a person is in itself a type of foreplay. To me, it is the hottest part of being intimate with someone. Needless to say, when a guy is too excited about the end result that I end up taking my own clothes off in haste, it is a little disappointing. –Selina, 29
5. Put Your Tongue Back in Your Mouth
Tongue is fun and can be very verrrry sexy but too much tongue is nasty. And this goes for tongue engagement across all body parts…mouth (kisses are meant to involve lips and tongue…not tongue only...don’t need to know what you ate for dinner…and lunch), ears (this also can be sexy but has the potential to go very wrong and make me feel like you’re trying to clean out my ears with your tongue), neck (neck kisses are wonderful but please don’t slobber all over me like a dog or leave hickeys post middle school…I have to go to work with that) and lastly lady parts (very important...tongue is crucial but needs to be utilized correctly). –Kelly, 26
- See more at: http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex-tips/10-moves-she-wants-you-to-make-during-foreplay?page=2#sthash.Pg0d5ImF.dpuf3. Be Gentle

I've had a few just dive right in and try to just click away on my clit like it's a computer mouse--like first thing, before I'm even undressed. One guy got so rambunctious with his fingers that I felt like I was hooking up with Jack the Ripper. Relax, guys, it’s a turn on. –Stephanie, 28

4. Undress Me

The act of undressing a person is in itself a type of foreplay. To me, it is the hottest part of being intimate with someone. Needless to say, when a guy is too excited about the end result that I end up taking my own clothes off in haste, it is a little disappointing. –Selina, 29

5. Put Your Tongue Back in Your Mouth

Tongue is fun and can be very verrrry sexy but too much tongue is nasty. And this goes for tongue engagement across all body parts…mouth (kisses are meant to involve lips and tongue…not tongue only...don’t need to know what you ate for dinner…and lunch), ears (this also can be sexy but has the potential to go very wrong and make me feel like you’re trying to clean out my ears with your tongue), neck (neck kisses are wonderful but please don’t slobber all over me like a dog or leave hickeys post middle school…I have to go to work with that) and lastly lady parts (very important...tongue is crucial but needs to be utilized correctly). –Kelly, 26
- See more at: http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex-tips/10-moves-she-wants-you-to-make-during-foreplay?page=2#sthash.Pg0d5ImF.dpuf

 3. Be Gentle

I've had a few just dive right in and try to just click away on my clit like it's a computer mouse--like first thing, before I'm even undressed. One guy got so rambunctious with his fingers that I felt like I was hooking up with Jack the Ripper. Relax, guys, it’s a turn on. –Stephanie

4. Undress Me

The act of undressing a person is in itself a type of foreplay. To me, it is the hottest part of being intimate with someone. Needless to say, when a guy is too excited about the end result that I end up taking my own clothes off in haste, it is a little disappointing. –Selina,

5. Put Your Tongue Back in Your Mouth

Tongue is fun and can be very verrrry sexy but too much tongue is nasty. And this goes for tongue engagement across all body parts…mouth (kisses are meant to involve lips and tongue…not tongue only...don’t need to know what you ate for dinner…and lunch), ears (this also can be sexy but has the potential to go very wrong and make me feel like you’re trying to clean out my ears with your tongue), neck (neck kisses are wonderful but please don’t slobber all over me like a dog or leave hickeys post middle school…I have to go to work with that) and lastly lady parts (very important...tongue is crucial but needs to be utilized correctly). –Kelly,

6. Take Your Time

If I am not thoroughly warmed up, the sex won’t be good for anyone. In fact, it might hurt. Just be in the moment and enjoy all the fun fooling around. The good stuff will come (literally).  –Justine, 30

7. Use Both Hands

So if you are using a hand down there, you still have another free hand. Either go for the boobs, another part of my privates, or even just caress me somehow. Don’t be lazy. –Megan



8. Multi-Task

Nothing is more awkward then when a guy is fingering me and just like hovering over me and staring at me. Kiss me! I don’t care where, but don’t just lie there creepily. What is so difficult about doing those two things at the same time?

ike working out, sex can be bad–and possibly dangerous–if you both parties haven’t warmed up properly. We know you are desperate to get to the good stuff, but foreplay can be good, too. If you take the time and make the right moves, you will find yourself loving the pre-game as much as you do the grand finale. However, there is more to foreplay than first, second, and third bases. We spoke to real women to find out how to make foreplay creative and exciting, and what moves really get her going.
1. Talk to Me
I love a dude who can communicate during foreplay. Moaning and groaning is cool, but dirty talk is fun for both parties and typically you end up getting more/less of what you actually want in the bedroom when you can be vocal about it in a playful way. It’s a great way to get me going. –Kelly, 26

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2. Pay Attention to the Twins
It sucks when they don't spend enough time on breasts. Most men seem more than happy to spend a good amount of time on other foreplay activities and areas, but they kind of just see the boobs, give them a quick once over, and then move on, rarely to return. It's very sad. Give them more loving, we like it! –Jessica, 26
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9 Sex Positions That'll Get Her Off Every Time

1. Missionary

According to sex experts, women get the most pleasure out of basic missionary sex. “Interestingly, when we surveyed women, good old-fashioned missionary position was the overall favorite. There's nothing fancy about it, but women said they loved the closeness and the intimacy of having their partner's weight on them,” says Solot. But in order for position to be most effective, Los Angeles-based sex expert and radio host Lora Somoza says to make sure you’re entering her at the correct angle. “By going in diagonally—rather than straight in and out—there’s more friction for clitorial stimulation, which is best, since that’s how most women achieve orgasm.”

2. Reverse Cowgirl

In this position, the man is either lying down or in a sitting position, and the female straddles him backwards — facing his feet instead of his face. It’s a key position that also allows easy access to the clitoris, says sexologist and sexuality educator Megan Andelloux. “Because of the easier clitoral access, this position is the one that is most likely to facilitate an orgasm because direct clitoral stimulation is easy to engage in.”

3. Doggie Style

Doggie style is a great position for the woman because it allows her to have optimal control. “She is able to adjust her range of motion for an angle that feels best,” says Amy Levine, a sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure. “He can likely stimulate her G-spot and have access to her clitoris with his hand, her hand or a toy, like a small bullet-shaped vibrator.” Sexologist Gloria Brame, Ph.D. also stresses the importance of clitoral stimulation while in the doggie style position. “She will rarely have an orgasm if you’re not doing something manually in front at the same time,” she says.

4.Girl on Top

Another position that allows her to have the most control of her orgasm is when she’s the one on top, facing forward. But Somoza explains that it still needs to be a joint effort. “You can help her by moving her hips up and down. It’s a communication thing,” she says. Levine adds that when the woman is on top, “she’s in control of the depth and motion, as well as having easy access to her clitoris for pleasure.”

5. Spooning

If your lady doesn’t prefer deep penetration, Andelloux suggests spooning. It’s also good “if you’re into lazy morning Sunday sex playtime. It concentrates on stimulation of the front portion of the vagina or rectum, which is where the most nerves are located in the genitals.” Andelloux explains that spooning is pleasurable because it creates a tighter fit in the vagina and rectum, so if a woman is looking for more stimulation from her partner’s fingers or penis... spoon away.

6. Crisscross

According to Marshall Miller, a sex educator and co-author of I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide, this is another great position for clitoral stimulation. “Both partners are lying down. The woman is on her back and the guy is on his side. She has her legs draped over his middle like a giant X,” he says. “Since your bodies aren't squished against each other, either you or she can reach down to rub her clitoris, what most women need to reach the Big O.”

7. The Pillow Technique

Many sex experts agree that positions often become more pleasurable for a woman when a pillow or blanket is added to create a new angle of entry. In missionary, Levine says to “put a pillow under her tush to give a pelvic lift. That can also help the man rub her g-spot with his penis.” Dr. Brame says it’s a tip that is often underutilized, and that you can even use furniture or yoga props. “Certain angles for some women won’t be comfortable,” he says. “Ask her what is working for her.”

8. Coital Alignment Technique

This position, created by psychotherapist Edward Eichel, is considered by many to be the “greatest sex position in the world.” Start in a normal missionary position with your full body weight on top of the woman, not resting on your elbows. Move forward so that the base of your penis (your pubic bone) is making direct contact with her clitoris. Her legs should be around your thighs and you should be moving together in a rhythmic, rocking motion. “Some swear that this position allows for the closest physical connection and the best clitoral stimulation based on his positioning,” says Levine.

9. Ankles Up

“When you’re on top of somebody or flat, you can’t always achieve full penetration,” says Dr. Brame—which is why adjusting her leg positioning allows for deeper contact. “You have to put her ankles up over your shoulders. It allows you to go as deep inside of her as possible and hit her G-spot.” The same deepness can also be achieved by her bending her knees or placing the soles of her feet on your chest.

1. Missionary
According to sex experts, women get the most pleasure out of basic missionary sex. “Interestingly, when we surveyed women, good old-fashioned missionary position was the overall favorite. There's nothing fancy about it, but women said they loved the closeness and the intimacy of having their partner's weight on them,” says Solot. But in order for position to be most effective, Los Angeles-based sex expert and radio host Lora Somoza says to make sure you’re entering her at the correct angle. “By going in diagonally—rather than straight in and out—there’s more friction for clitorial stimulation, which is best, since that’s how most women achieve orgasm.”
2. Reverse Cowgirl
In this position, the man is either lying down or in a sitting position, and the female straddles him backwards — facing his feet instead of his face. It’s a key position that also allows easy access to the clitoris, says sexologist and sexuality educator Megan Andelloux. “Because of the easier clitoral access, this position is the one that is most likely to facilitate an orgasm because direct clitoral stimulation is easy to engage in.”
3. Doggie Style
Doggie style is a great position for the woman because it allows her to have optimal control. “She is able to adjust her range of motion for an angle that feels best,” says Amy Levine, a sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure. “He can likely stimulate her G-spot and have access to her clitoris with his hand, her hand or a toy, like a small bullet-shaped vibrator.” Sexologist Gloria Brame, Ph.D. also stresses the importance of clitoral stimulation while in the doggie style position. “She will rarely have an orgasm if you’re not doing something manually in front at the same time,” she says.
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Teen Sexual Activity Facts

Remember freedom of choice about sex also includes saying No to sex. All the listed facts send out only one message - girls in their teens should say No to sex.

1. Four in ten girls who had their first intercourse at the age of 13 or 14 years reported that it was either forced or non-voluntary or unwanted.

2. By 15 years about 13% of teens have had sexual intercourse.

3. By the time they reach 19 years 7 out of 10 teens have had sexual intercourse at least once.

4. The chance of becoming pregnant within a year if not using a condom is much higher (90%) among the teens than others.

5. Nearly a third of all teen pregnancies end up in abortion.

6. There were 214,750 abortions in 2002 in the United States among 15-19-year-olds.

7. The highest rates of teen pregnancy in the developed world happen in United States and the annual cost of such pregnancies is $ 7 billion.

8. The babies of teenage mothers have lower birth weights and are more likely to perform poorly in school. They are also likely to be at greater risk of abuse and neglect.

9. The chances of the son of a teenage mother ending up in prison (13% more likely) or their daughter becoming pregnant (22%) is more likely than normal.

10. Of the 18.9 million new cases of STIs (syphilis, gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, trichomoniasis, Human papillomavirus -HPV infections) each year almost 48% or 9.1 million occur among 15-24-year-olds.

References
 1. Abma JC et al., Teenagers in the United States: sexual activity, contraceptive use, and childbearing, 2002, Vital and Health Statistics, 2004, Series 23, No. 24.

2.  Harlap S, Kost K and Forrest JD, Preventing Pregnancy, Protecting Health: A New Look at Birth Control Choices in the United States, New York: AGI, 1991.

3.  Guttmacher Institute, U.S. Teenage Pregnancy Statistics: National and State Trends and Trends by Race and Ethnicity, accessed Sept. 12, 2006.

4. National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy. (1997). Whatever Happened to Childhood? The Problem of Teen Pregnancy in the United States. Washington, DC: Author.

Female Sexual Dysfunction

Women experience problems with sexual function at some point in their lives. Sexual dysfunction is quite common affecting almost 30-50% of women globally.Sexual activity incorporates interpersonal relationships, each partner bringing unique attitudes, needs and responses into the coupling. A breakdown in any of these areas may lead to sexual dysfunction. This can be a lifelong problem, or it can happen later in life.

Female sexual dysfunction may be due to a number of causes. Traumatic injury to the genitals or pelvic region, surgical intervention, extensive bike riding, underlying medical conditions, hormonal imbalance, and medications can cause sexual dysfunction.

The American Psychological Association (APA) classifies female sexual problems as-

Mental disorder - loss of sexual desire or arousal

Discomfort during intercourse

Diminished blood flow to the vagina

Trauma-related aversion to sex

Inability to achieve orgasm

Almost all causes of sexual dysfunction are treatable. Communicating the concerns and understanding ones’ body and its normal response to sexual activity are important steps toward gaining sexual satisfaction.

What are the Types of Female Sexual Dysfunction?

Types of female sexual disorder are-

1. Hypoactive sexual desire disorder

Hypoactive sexual desire disorder is characterized by an absence of libido or the intrinsic lack of desire to have sexual relationship. Persistent or recurring deficiency (or absence) of sexual fantasies/thoughts and sexual activity may sometimes cause personal distress.

Hypoactive sexual disorder may also result from psychological/emotional factors or be secondary to medical problems such as hormone deficiencies, and medical or surgical interventions. Any disruption of the female hormonal system caused by natural menopause, surgically or medically-induced menopause; or endocrine disorders can also result in inhibited sexual desire.

2. Sexual aversion disorder

Sexual aversion disorder is characterized by an aversion to or avoidance or dismissal of sexual contact with a partner.

It is generally a psychological or emotional problem that can be due to various other underlying long-standing emotional problems like physical or sexual abuse or childhood trauma.

3. Female sexual arousal disorder

Female sexual arousal disorder is when a female does not feel a sexual response in the body or is unable to keep up the arousal.

Some disorders of arousal include lack of or diminished vaginal lubrication, decreased clitoral and labial sensation, decreased clitoral and labial engorgement or lack of vaginal smooth muscle relaxation. These conditions may occur secondary to psychological factors; however often there is a medical/physiologic basis such as diminished vaginal/clitoral blood flow, previous injury or fracture to pelvic bones, pelvic surgery or sometimes it is a result of medications.

4. Female orgasmic disorder

Female orgasmic disorder is defined as the delay or absence of orgasm after ‘normal’ arousal.

This may be a primary (never achieved orgasm) or a secondary condition, as a result of surgery, trauma, or hormone deficiencies. Primary orgasm can be due to emotional trauma or sexual abuse. Medical and/or physical factors can certainly contribute to the problem.

5. Dyspareunia

Dyspareunia is a medical term that indicates genital pain before, during, or after intercourse. In some women, the muscles in the outer part of the vagina tighten when they start to have sex leading to the discomfort.

Dyspareunia can also develop secondary to medical problems such as vestibulitis (inflammation of a gland in the genital area), vaginal atrophy or dryness of vagina or vaginal infection. Dyspareunia can also be either physiological or psychological, or a combination of the two.

6. Vaginismus

Vaginismus is a medical term that indicates recurrent or persistent involuntary spasm of the musculature of the outer third the vagina and this interferes with vaginal penetration.

Vaginismus usually develops as a conditioned response to painful penetration, or secondary to psychological/emotional factors.

What are the Causes of Female Sexual Dysfunction?

The causes of female sexual dysfunction are poorly defined. This is perhaps because sexual intercourse or stimulation is an act that involves many systems to function in harmony to reach the stage of orgasm. Sometimes there may be multiple factors leading to the dysfunction.

The causes of female sexual dysfunction are listed below:

Medical causes -: These include

Spinal cord injury. Spinal cord injury can cause nerve damage or paralysis. Women with spinal cord injury have significantly more difficulty achieving orgasm than able-bodied women.

Bicycle riding. Bicycle riding on long narrow seats is associated with perineal pressure and reduced vaginal and clitoral blood flow and can rarely cause sexual dysfunction.

Surgery. Surgery of or near the reproductive system, urinary system or abdomen may damage nerves and lead to sexual dysfunction.

Urinary incontinence. Urinary incontinence can cause embarrassment and avoidance of sex.

Vaginal atrophy. Vaginal atrophy can cause discomfort during intercourse.

Systemic diseases like hypertension, high cholesterol levels, diabetes and heart disease can also cause sexual dysfunction.

Hormonal/Endocrine causes- Female sexual dysfunction due to hormonal problems can lead to decreased desire and libido, vaginal dryness and lack of sexual arousal.

Estrogen, a primarily female hormone, is associated with sexual desire. Testosterone, a primarily male sex hormone, plays a role in women's sexual development and function, including sensitivity of the breasts and clitoris. Some women experience diminished sexual desire, absence of sexual fantasies, and impaired sensitivity following menopause or hysterectomy or due to aging as a result of reduced estrogen.

Hormonal abnormalities may arise due to-

Dysfunction of the hypothalamic/pituitary axis

Surgical or medical castration

Natural menopause- After menopause many women feel less sexual desire, have vaginal dryness or have pain during sex.

Premature ovarian failure

Pregnancy- the sexual desire may be less during pregnancy, right after childbirth or while breast-feeding.

Psychogenic causes-: These include

Emotional and relationship issues

Self-esteem

Negative body perception

Inability to communicate one’s sexual needs with one’s partner

Depression, obsessive compulsive disorder, anxiety disorder

Stress- Stress can affect a person’s ability to have sex. Being tired from a busy job or caring for young children may make the person feel less desire to have sex.

Other causes: Other causes include:

Excessive alcohol intake and smoking

Medications- Certain birth control pills can lead to decreased libido. Antidepressants and benzodiazepines used to treat depression and anxiety are associated with loss of libido and inability to achieve orgasm.

Dissatisfaction theory-

In some instances a woman's sexual dysfunction is due to inadequate genital stimulation.
Poor communication between partners may result in men not knowing how to stimulate a woman so that she becomes aroused. This leads to unsatisfactory sex and can cause arousal problems, lack of sexual interest, depression, and aversion to sex.

Drugs causing sexual dysfunction

Drugs that can cause sexual dysfunction are:

Drugs acting on the brain

Antidepressants like amitriptyline, amoxapine, clomipramine, doxepine, maprotiline, protriptyline, trazodone. The SSRI group of antidepressants that includes fluoxetine and sertraline are particularly notorious for causing sexual problems.

Antipsychotics like chlorpromazine, haloperidol, thioridazine and trifluoperazine

Antianxiety drugs like diazepam

Alcohol, opioids and cocaine

Amphetamines

Drugs used to treat Parkinson’s disease like levodopa, benztropin, bromocriptine

Drugs used to treat seizures like carbamazepine, ethosuximide, phenytoin

Drugs used to treat hypertension like methyldopa, prazosin, clonidine, guanethidine and reserpine

Antihistamines like diphenhydramine, dimenhydrinate, hydroxyzine, meclizine, promethazine – Antihistamines cause drowsiness, and in females they also cause dryness of vagina leading to pain during sex.

Drugs that alter the effect of hormones

Spironolactone (an antihypertensive/ diuretic)

Cimetidine (an anti-ulcer drug)

Finasteride or dutasteride (used for prostate enlargement), cyproterone acetate – These drugs block the effects of androgens

Estrogen

GnRH analogues such as nafarelin, triptorelin, goserelin and leuprolide

Ketoconazole

Drugs used to treat high blood pressure

They may decrease blood pressure, thus decreasing the blood pressure in the penis during an erection

Diuretics like amiloride, indapamide, thiazide diuretics and spironolactone

Beta – blockers like atenolol, metoprolol

Alpha blockers like methyldopa, prazosin, terazosin, tamsulosin and clonidine

Adrenergic neuronal blockers like guanethidine and reserpine

Calcium channel blockers like verapamil

Among the antihypertensive drugs, ACE inhibitors like enalapril and ramipril are less likely to cause sexual dysfunction

Drugs used to treat abnormal heart rhythm or arrhythmias

Amiodarone

Mexelitine

Drugs used to treat high lipid level

Clofibrate

Painkillers

Naproxen and ibuprofen

Anticancer drugS