Women Wants

It's an age old question – one that most men spend their lives trying, unsuccessfully, to figure out. What do women want? Books and films have been made about it; men have spent fortunes in pursuit of it; reputations have been staked upon and lost in the timeless search for the answer. Even the venerable (now largely-discredited) Sigmund Freud, who claimed to have spent thirty years peering into the “feminine soul”, ultimately found himself asking, close to his death, “What does a woman want?”
That's the point of this article. I'm here today to discuss with you what women want.
If you ask a woman what she wants – or what women want in general – she'll respond with a variety of possible answers.
“What women want is a good guy to take care of them,” she may tell you.
“What women want is a confident man who makes them feel good,” she might say.
“What women want is to feel loved and free,” she could offer.
And all of those are accurate, to a certain degree; but they all only begin to scratch the surface of what women want. Women want a lot more than what those statements might imply; in fact, give a woman a man who meets every requirement she says she wants, and I guarantee you that in two to four years, she'll have grown increasingly bored and unsatisfied with him. That doesn't mean she'll stray from him; that doesn't mean she'll leave him. That doesn't even mean she'll want to. But it does mean that she'll end up not having what she wants after all – because if she did have what she wanted, she wouldn't be bored or unsatisfied... would she?

BECOMING WHAT WOMEN WANT

Becoming what women want is no easy task. Most men target one category and establish themselves in it – they become good at making friends with women, for instance, or get good at being the sexy guy that women want to have a fling with, or become the guy who competes for women on traditional dates and romantic excursions. But for a man to really give a woman what she wants, he's got to do more than be just one of the men from those categories.
He's got to do his best to be all of them. And he's got to make sure his woman doesn't forget that he is all of them – which means her friends and family need to be reinforcing how great he is, and she needs to be at least a little aware of the risk that she may lose him if she starts taking him for granted. Which means she should ideally see women flirting with him occasionally, and they will have to fight and make up occasionally.
That probably sounds like a tall order, and it is. It's a tough pill to swallow. Most men who read this are going to say to themselves, “Not a chance. There's no way I'm going to waste my time trying to be the perfect man just to get a woman. I can get women just fine!”
But we're not talking about getting women. We're talking about keeping women. Long-term. Indefinitely. We're talking about becoming the kind of man who can keep a woman around as long as he wants her. And to become that kind of man, you need to become the kind of man that women want.
So what do women want? Women want, plainly and simply, a friend, lover, and provider all in one. One man, with all of those characteristics. Every woman's dream man. And this man must challenge her, win her friends and family over to his side, and create a “bubble” of “us vs. the world” – create a feeling that the two of them are close and inseparable and working together through thick and thin, all the while always knowing – and keeping her aware, in the back of her head – that he is able to separate, if absolutely necessary, and be perfectly fine.
To the men who say you can simply follow one path, whether that of the friend, or the lover, or the provider – you're wrong. The men who try to just be women's friends forget that women are sexual creatures who need strong, dominant men to satisfy them. The men who try just to be lovers to women forget that women eventually long for security and stability, and no matter how much excitement and passion a man offers her, eventually a woman will leave if she becomes convinced she won't get the security she needs from him. And the men who try only to be providers forget about the consideration and encouragement the men who are friends offer to women, and the adventure and primal gratification the men who are lovers do.
If a man only wants to follow one path, and is content having women who are “happy enough” for a while before moving on to new women, I suggest the path of the lover. It will provide the quickest and most satisfying short term results of any of the three paths.
If a man wants a healthy relationship over the long-term with a woman, however, he must seek to combine the three paths and offer everything offered with each. And he must always remember to include growth, change, and challenge in the relationship to keep things fresh and keep his woman engaged in it. People resist routine with all their might; and the more passionate the woman, the more passionately she will resist sameness and familiarity and seek out novelty.
So... What do women want? They want a man who has become what they want. And need.
And believe me, once you have, they will be fighting over you. Because when it comes to men who've figured out what it is that women want... well, suffice it to say there aren't a whole lot. They are the rarest of breeds, and the most desired men out there.
Women want men who know what women want. And if you've read this article... now, you're one of them.
So here's to your success – because there are lots and lots of women out there hoping and praying for that rarest of men; the man who knows what women want better than they know it themselves, and who isn't afraid to give it to them. I'm confident you can be that man; because quite honestly, when you boil it down to the absolute basics, the core fundamentals; that one certain thing that symbolizes what women want from a man more than anything else there is... what women really, truly want, is a man who tries.