A Gentleman’s Take On Why Women Should Never Settle For Less Than They Deserve

Growing up, I was drawn to poems, romantic songs, romantic comedies and other romantic-isms that led me to my current hopeless-romantic personality. There is nothing I enjoy more than having a special lady in my life who has me grinning all day.

Don't get me wrong, I've had a lot of fun (and my accent doesn't hurt when I try to pick up women — something about the combination of a few vodkas and some rolled R's is magic). However, as I get older and meet more women, I grow more concerned that young women are setting the bar too low for the men they seek.

Now, women seem to find people like me to be surprising because other men no longer act chivalrously. Of course, it puts us rare breed of gentlemen in a great position, but it makes me wonder: Who have these poor women been dating?

Here are some things you should know about us:
We know you are a grown, independent woman who can complete endless tasks without a man's help. You can open your own doors, pay your own rent and put on your own coat — we know. But, we want to be the ones who make you smile nonstop; the ones who provide you with amazing, memorable experiences; the ones who completely change the way you perceive life. A gentleman treats his mother and sisters like queens; he should treat you the same way.

We have zero fear about revealing our feelings and allowing you to see a side of us that our “bros” may categorize as a weakness. Maybe you're thinking “those men don't exist anymore,” so allow to me clarify:

Just because we are respectable gentleman, we're not automatically predictable.
We will go out of our way to guard your heart and support your dreams. Other losers may have compromised both, but we'll mend the destruction. Surprises and small acts of kindness will make you feel as special as you deserve to feel.

Hopeless romantics are aggressive, too.
We want to show you that we know we are lucky. We'll leave hand-written notes, send gifts, hold hands, notice your haircut and steal kisses when you least expect it. We love to pamper you, but please don't mistake our kindness for not being aggressive enough. We are confident men who like to lead, but can slow things down if need be.

We know the depth of your beauty
Of course we look forward to romantic time, but it's not a race to get into bed. We truly understand that intimacy grows with comfort and that comfort grows with time. A hopeless romantic is focused on your pleasures, desires and needs because you have the potential to become the center of his universe.

We plan for a better future.
We are hardworking and have plans, ambitions and goals that require long work hours. For us, there is no time available for playing games or for pretending to be somebody else. If we like you and you like us, let’s hang out and see where things go.

Raise your expectations and standards, and never settle for someone or something that doesn't meet your criteria. It might take longer to find a quality partner, but we are definitely worth the wait. There are a few of us out there, but some men simply aren't worth the squeeze. Never forget your self-worth, and most importantly, don't let a man or sex define it. Go out there and date a hopeless romantic because they are men, not boys.

What Happens When You Eat Nothing But Fruit for a Week

I always thought the word “fruitarian” was like the word “chocoholic”—a cutesy term used to describe someone's food preferences but not actually a real way of life. That is, until I became a vegan. Five months ago, I was inspired to convert to a plant-based diet by a community of vegan vloggers I discovered on YouTube. The more I became educated about veganism, the more invested and curious I became about the inner culture of the lifestyle. Soon I learned that there isn’t just one way to be a vegan: There are dozens. There is gluten-free vegan; raw vegan; high-carb, low-fat vegan; and more. Two months into my veganism, I was doing some research online, when I discovered a faction of veganism so tiny that it was even difficult to find definitive information about it on Google. The diet? Fruitarianism.

According to certified holistic nutritionist Kelly LeVeque, the fruitarian diet is “a subset of raw veganism where you eat botanical fruits in their natural state.” This includes all sweet fruits and seeded fruits (such as avocado, tomato, cucumber, and olives), as well as nuts and seeds. No grains, no cooked food. Certainly no processed food. The strictest of fruitarians don’t even eat vegetables or starches… literally just fruit.

At first, I was horrified, and then I was fascinated—enough to want to give the diet a try myself. To see how my week-long stab at fruitarianism went, keep reading!

Who Are These Fruitarians?

One of the most prominent fruitarian spokespeople is a YouTuber who goes by Freelee the Banana Girl. To all of her 670K subscribers, Freelee preaches the benefits of a fruit-heavy lifestyle, downing 30 (sometimes 50!) bananas in a single day. (Watching her do this on camera is oddly gripping.) Freelee’s view is that eating low-calorie fruits in large quantities delivers maximum glucose to the brain, fueling our minds and bodies while keeping us slim. From the looks of her flat, washboard abs and fiery demeanor, she seems to be on a constant sugar high.

But even Freelee’s diet isn't 100% fruit. “Depending on who you talk to, you can be a fruitarian if you eat at least 50%–75% of your calories this way,” says LeVeque. In other words, there’s no official definition of the diet. That’s not to say someone who eats fruit salad for breakfast and lunch and then a Taco Bell feast for dinner would be considered a fruitarian, but the term is somewhat up to interpretation.

 

Why Go Fruitarian?

You might be wondering what on earth the argument is for eating a fruitarian diet. The answer here varies as well. “Motivation to follow this lifestyle includes avoiding animal protein, increasing fiber, detoxifying the body, lowering calorie intake, and eliminating the need to cook,” says LeVeque. Some fruitarians even argue that there’s a moral component to it—that it’s only natural to eat food that falls from a tree naturally instead of ripping it from the ground. (I urge you, take this with a grain of salt.)

Despite the different interpretations, one thing all fruitarians have in common is this: They eat massive quantities of food and all manage to stay incredibly lean. Do a quick YouTube search, and you’ll find flat-stomached people from all over the world downing papayas and mangos by the dozens.

Personally, I’m not looking to lose weight. But the idea of getting to stuff your face and wake up with a flat tummy enticed me. Plus, even though I was already vegan when I discovered fruitarianism, my diet featured more processed junk and fewer fresh foods than it really should have. If nothing else, I figured a bout of fruitarianism could help me get into the habit of eating more raw fruits and veggies.

So, as an experiment, I resolved to follow a strict fruitarian diet for five days. I decided it would be more of a brief cleanse than a permanent lifestyle. I’ve always loved fruit, so I wasn’t nervous about my menu options. Plus, I hate cooking, so the raw thing seemed like a great fit. I had never been on a diet this specific before, but I was (naïvely) excited for the challenge.
The night before my diet, I did a giant fruit haul at Trader Joe’s (side note: following a fruit-only diet is delightfully cheap), and I ate a last meal of vegan pizza and cupcakes. The next day, I would wake up a fruitarian.

What Does a Fruitarian Diet Look Like?

Here is exactly what I ate on my first day as a fruitarian…  
Breakfast:
A big smoothie with three bananas, blueberries, dates, and about a cup of coconut milk
Morning snack:
A handful of dried peaches
Lunch:
Two massive bowls of fruit salad, filled with bananas, grapes, and berries (followed by a vitamin B12 supplement)
Afternoon snack:
A handful of dried figs
Dinner:
A large bowl of chopped avocado, cucumber, and tomato, dressed with olive oil, lemon, salt, and pepper
Dessert:
A bag of raw almonds
Throughout the day, everyone I interacted with asked me the same two questions: “Aren’t you starving?” and “How many times have you gone to the bathroom today?” My answers to both: “Surprisingly, no,” and “Uh, a lot.”
As strange as it sounds, hunger was not the issue. This diet has nothing to do with portion control. You’re encouraged to eat as much fruit, nuts, and seeds as you desire. Polishing off those two bowls of fruit for lunch was shockingly difficult. Calorie-wise, I could have eaten the equivalent in tacos or pizza and still be starving. But the calorie density of these foods is so low that you can fill your stomach to the brim without actually overeating. Of course, downing raw fruit all day isn’t exactly exciting, but at least it doesn’t leave you hungry.
It does, however, encourage frequent bathroom breaks. Fruit is packed with fiber and water, two substances that seem to slip and slide right through the digestive system. All day, I could feel every twist of my intestines churning and bubbling to digest the food. Needless to say, this wasn’t comfortable. But sure enough, I woke up the morning of day two completely cleared out. My belly was astoundingly flat, and this was after a single day. With results like that, I had just one thought: Bring on the fruit!

My second-day fruitarian menu was very similar to my first. This diet doesn’t exactly permit a ton of variety. My digestive system continued to writhe, but happily, my hunger level didn’t increase. However, things did get complicated when I realized I was slated to attend a cocktail party that evening.
Incidentally, the fruitarian literature doesn’t say much about alcohol. But I figured if I couldn’t even have broccoli, booze was probably off the table too. Like many other restrictive diets, fruitarianism isn’t conducive to social gatherings. Just imagine showing up to a restaurant with friends and asking for a crate of bananas.

By the time the cocktail party rolled around, my fruitarian enthusiasm was dwindling. I wanted to enjoy myself at the event (one vodka soda wouldn’t kill me, would it?). Plus, I was starting to get decidedly non-fruitarian cravings. Interestingly, these food hankerings weren’t for a big home-cooked meal or a fatty dessert. All I wanted was some kind of starch. Potatoes, maybe, or rice. Or pasta. Or bread. Just something a little more substantial to break up the sugary fruit.

So, admittedly, I cheated. There were plates of vegan avocado toast at the cocktail party, and at around 7 p.m., I said “screw it,” and I had a couple slices (washed down with a vodka spritzer, might I add).
Even though I strayed from the diet, I didn’t want to throw in the towel. Health experts say this is a classic mistake. Just because you have a minor slip doesn’t mean you should give up altogether. Plus, 75% of my calories that day had been fruit-derived, so I was still technically in the fruitarian range.
I woke up the following day flat-stomached once again. The bread hadn’t ruined me after all. I was actually glad I had cheated. Sticking to a raw diet two meals out of three seemed like a reasonable lifestyle to me—something I could continue doing after my fruitarian “cleanse.”

10 Genius Hacks for Fixing Makeup Mistakes Every Woman Makes

1. Don't test new foundation shades on your cheek. The skin on your face, due to increased sun exposure or breakouts, isn't the same color as the rest of your body. So, if you match your foundation to your cheek, you might end up with a shade that doesn't match your neck and chest and doesn't look natural.

Instead, swipe three shades of foundation right below your jawline, blend them in, and whichever shade disappears is the one you should choose.

2. Don't apply concealer before foundation. You'll just end up removing it as you apply your base.

Instead, apply foundation before concealer. This way, you won't have to use as much concealer.

3. Don't apply foundation in upward strokes. Going against the grain of the little hairs on your face will make peach fuzz more visible by raising them up instead of smoothing them down.

Instead, use your brush or sponge to pat the foundation on for a more airbrushed effect.

4. Don't use the same concealer to cover both under-eye circles and pimples. Your under-eye concealer, which should be a shade lighter than your skin tone, will highlight your pimple, not hide it.

Instead, use a creamy cover-up that matches your skin perfectly to conceal blemishes.

5. Don't rely on just concealer when covering pimple scars.

Instead, layer foundation, concealer, and setting powder to ensure the blemish is completely covered and the product won't budge.

6. Don't apply your concealer in a moon shape under your eye.

Instead, draw a triangle shape to brighten the entire eye area.

7. Don't skip on moisturizer just because you have oily skin. This will dry your skin out and make it produce more oil.

Instead, try an apple cider vinegar and water mixture, or green tea as a toner (both balance your skin's pH levels) before applying your moisturizer. 

8. Don't use a cream moisturizer all over your face if you have oily skin. 

Instead, use a mattifying gel moisturizer on your T-zone and a cream moisturizer everywhere else.  This will fight shine while keeping your skin hydrated.

9. Don't use loose powder to fight an oily complexion. Too much powder can make your makeup look cakey.

Instead, use a clear mattifier. Apply it before or after your makeup, and watch the shine disappear. 

10. Don't skip oil-blotting your face. An oily T-zone can ruin a good photo.

Instead, use a toilet seat cover in a pinch to dab up the extra shine.