#1: Independence
A woman wants a strong man who can live his own life – even if he ends up in a relationship with her.
Men are born to be leaders. And as a leader, you must learn to rely on yourself and your own masculine abilities in order to be the rock in a woman’s life. They value a man’s ability to be self-reliant, mature, and have his life together without using other people as a crutch.
Women want men who are daring and adventurous: men who aren’t afraid to pack up and move halfway across the world at a moment’s notice.
#2: Confidence
When it comes to women of any level of attractiveness, you don’t have to be smart; you don’t have to be especially good looking; you don’t have to be rich; you don’t have to be cut… but you do need to be confident.
Remember my story from earlier of the friend who was out on a date with a perfect 10? This was the one factor that set him apart from all of the rich and pseudo-famous men that she had dumped in the past. Did some of these men of her past have confidence? Absolutely. Did all of them? Doubtful.
But, when I talk about confidence, I don’t just mean walking around with your chest puffed out and speaking loudly like some sort of Gaston. This kind of blind confidence does not equal success.
What I mean by confidence is having an assurance of who you are. My friend has never been afraid to be himself to the highest degree. He’s more comfortable in his own skin than many of the celebrities you see in magazines.
Additionally, he always:
*Gives elite eye contact
*Makes good use of pregnant pauses
* Uses social pressure
* Turns the conversation back to the girl
* Is just the right amount of mysterious
He’s an eccentric, multi-cultural creative and he absolutely owns it. And this drives women wild. And that’s why he has this “perfect 10” – and many other girls that most guys would fantasize about – wrapped around his fingers.
Myself, I am a fun loving, deep conversation having, entrepreneur-dancer-philosopher-traveler-writer, and I absolutely own that. Does it work on every girl? Absolutely not. But why would I want it to?
What I don’t understand about beginners in the seduction game is their desire to attract every girl. They never want to get rejected or fail.
But do you really want to attract every girl? That means attracting:
1.All of the crazies
2. The drugged out heroin addicts
3.The excessive party girls who have sex with any guy who is willing, etc.
Think about it!
And to a less extreme extent, if you’re a guy who’s into online gaming and paintball, do you really want a granola super-hippy who’s constantly trying to educate you about people’s “auras”? Do you want a girl who’s not your physical type? You may want to have sex with such a girl, but what’s more important is compatibility and sustainability.
The reason why guys want “every girl” to like them is because they really just want to be liked in general. They envision girls smiling and laughing at all the things they say; and they envision girls just generally validating them. But you can’t stake your validation on a girl. That’s an express ticket to a chase mentality. Furthermore, once you gain more experience, you’ll learn that a lot women who are attracted to you won’t validate you at all. They’ll just expect you to persist and push forward in order to seduce them.
So throw out that “every girl” nonsense. Me? I want to attract the girls who are excited by the things that I’m excited about.
And does my confident self-assurance work on these girls? You better believe it.
#3: Sexiness
This one should really go without saying, but a lot of men in the West are taught to contain their sexuality by the many cultural influences of our society.
But despite what the media may tell you, or what women themselves may tell you, women love sexy men. Women love men who aren’t afraid to show their lustful/sensual side and get a girl excited about the buildup to having sex.
So learn to be a sexy man and join the minority of men that women respect for knowing what women want.
#4: Social Adroitness
Women often complain about men who “don’t get it.” These men walk around fumbling their way through social interactions, and can’t pick up on the subtext that is always going on in a conversation with a female.
As such, women value men who are socially adroit: men who know how to listen, how to build comfort, and how to communicate with them on their terms.
#5: Purpose
One of the saddest occurrences in the world is not a man’s death, but a man living without purpose. The great paradox of the seduction game is the fact that the easiest way to get women is to make sure that they are never your top priority.
Should you approach women? Without question. Should you compliment and flirt with them? That goes without saying. Should you seduce them? Dumb question. But should you make them your number 1 priority? Never!
There are definitely some people in the seduction game who treat picking up girls like it’s their actual job.
Well, consider this: say you ran around for 2 years, approaching your little heart out, and then finally landed your dream girl. You date her for a year and then you end up marrying her. Then what? What is your life’s purpose now that you’ve landed the woman of your dreams?
Seducing women is not a life purpose. It’s a great boon to help you accomplish a greater goal on your one journey through this world.
* Giving your time to rebuild impoverished communities is a purpose.
* Creating art or music is a purpose.
* Masterminding businesses is a purpose.
* Leading a movement is a purpose.
Women look for guys who have a purpose because they want to build a life with someone who has greater aspirations that they can be a part of in some way. Maybe it’ll be joining you on the path to fulfilling your purpose; maybe it will be supporting you while she looks to you for support to fulfill her own. But either way, you’ll be hard pressed to find a quality woman if you don’t understand who you are and you aren’t trying to find out why you’re here.
#6: Warmth
I know that there’s a belief among men that girls only go for guys who are assholes. But if you read the post that I just linked, Chase is specific in mentioning that you can’t be an asshole for no reason. Those are the kinds of people that everyone just loathes.
Being an asshole is just another way of saying that you’re in control. Whether he’s putting himself out there or drawing in a woman to put herself out there, the asshole is always in control in terms of what he gives out to other people.
That being said: someone who is in control and genuinely cares about others is considered warm. And warmth is what women truly want.
Women want a man who won’t be pushed around by other people, but will treat people with care and empathy – and that goes especially the lovers in his life. They want a man who knows how to connect with people, and they want a man they can tell their friends about to make them jealously swoon.
#7: Byronic
Women want men who are strong, confident and dominant, no doubt. But they also want their man to be vulnerable, empathetic and flawed. There’s an interesting article about how people who make mistakes are actually much more likeable: check it out here.
This is because as human beings, we can’t relate to perfection. So though we may admire people who seem to have everything going for them, we can’t actually connect with them. And if there’s anything you want to do with a girl, it’s connect with her in every sense. Women want to be able to peel away your layers and reveal a man that they understand fully.
Wrapping Up
It’s not especially difficult to avoid the pitfalls that put women off. And it’s also very manageable to embrace the qualities that women actually want. The men women want are:
*Independent
* Confident
* Sexy
* Sociable
* On a mission
* Warm
* Byronic
Like anything in life, knowledge is power. If you understand what you’re aiming for and you know what you have to do to get there (i.e., read this site and go out there and get experience), then you’ll inevitably find success with time.
And hey, you might even find the girl of your dreams!
A woman wants a strong man who can live his own life – even if he ends up in a relationship with her.
Men are born to be leaders. And as a leader, you must learn to rely on yourself and your own masculine abilities in order to be the rock in a woman’s life. They value a man’s ability to be self-reliant, mature, and have his life together without using other people as a crutch.
Women want men who are daring and adventurous: men who aren’t afraid to pack up and move halfway across the world at a moment’s notice.
#2: Confidence
When it comes to women of any level of attractiveness, you don’t have to be smart; you don’t have to be especially good looking; you don’t have to be rich; you don’t have to be cut… but you do need to be confident.
Remember my story from earlier of the friend who was out on a date with a perfect 10? This was the one factor that set him apart from all of the rich and pseudo-famous men that she had dumped in the past. Did some of these men of her past have confidence? Absolutely. Did all of them? Doubtful.
But, when I talk about confidence, I don’t just mean walking around with your chest puffed out and speaking loudly like some sort of Gaston. This kind of blind confidence does not equal success.
What I mean by confidence is having an assurance of who you are. My friend has never been afraid to be himself to the highest degree. He’s more comfortable in his own skin than many of the celebrities you see in magazines.
Additionally, he always:
*Gives elite eye contact
*Makes good use of pregnant pauses
* Uses social pressure
* Turns the conversation back to the girl
* Is just the right amount of mysterious
He’s an eccentric, multi-cultural creative and he absolutely owns it. And this drives women wild. And that’s why he has this “perfect 10” – and many other girls that most guys would fantasize about – wrapped around his fingers.
Myself, I am a fun loving, deep conversation having, entrepreneur-dancer-philosopher-traveler-writer, and I absolutely own that. Does it work on every girl? Absolutely not. But why would I want it to?
What I don’t understand about beginners in the seduction game is their desire to attract every girl. They never want to get rejected or fail.
But do you really want to attract every girl? That means attracting:
1.All of the crazies
2. The drugged out heroin addicts
3.The excessive party girls who have sex with any guy who is willing, etc.
Think about it!
And to a less extreme extent, if you’re a guy who’s into online gaming and paintball, do you really want a granola super-hippy who’s constantly trying to educate you about people’s “auras”? Do you want a girl who’s not your physical type? You may want to have sex with such a girl, but what’s more important is compatibility and sustainability.
The reason why guys want “every girl” to like them is because they really just want to be liked in general. They envision girls smiling and laughing at all the things they say; and they envision girls just generally validating them. But you can’t stake your validation on a girl. That’s an express ticket to a chase mentality. Furthermore, once you gain more experience, you’ll learn that a lot women who are attracted to you won’t validate you at all. They’ll just expect you to persist and push forward in order to seduce them.
So throw out that “every girl” nonsense. Me? I want to attract the girls who are excited by the things that I’m excited about.
And does my confident self-assurance work on these girls? You better believe it.
#3: Sexiness
This one should really go without saying, but a lot of men in the West are taught to contain their sexuality by the many cultural influences of our society.
But despite what the media may tell you, or what women themselves may tell you, women love sexy men. Women love men who aren’t afraid to show their lustful/sensual side and get a girl excited about the buildup to having sex.
So learn to be a sexy man and join the minority of men that women respect for knowing what women want.
#4: Social Adroitness
Women often complain about men who “don’t get it.” These men walk around fumbling their way through social interactions, and can’t pick up on the subtext that is always going on in a conversation with a female.
As such, women value men who are socially adroit: men who know how to listen, how to build comfort, and how to communicate with them on their terms.
#5: Purpose
One of the saddest occurrences in the world is not a man’s death, but a man living without purpose. The great paradox of the seduction game is the fact that the easiest way to get women is to make sure that they are never your top priority.
Should you approach women? Without question. Should you compliment and flirt with them? That goes without saying. Should you seduce them? Dumb question. But should you make them your number 1 priority? Never!
There are definitely some people in the seduction game who treat picking up girls like it’s their actual job.
Well, consider this: say you ran around for 2 years, approaching your little heart out, and then finally landed your dream girl. You date her for a year and then you end up marrying her. Then what? What is your life’s purpose now that you’ve landed the woman of your dreams?
Seducing women is not a life purpose. It’s a great boon to help you accomplish a greater goal on your one journey through this world.
* Giving your time to rebuild impoverished communities is a purpose.
* Creating art or music is a purpose.
* Masterminding businesses is a purpose.
* Leading a movement is a purpose.
Women look for guys who have a purpose because they want to build a life with someone who has greater aspirations that they can be a part of in some way. Maybe it’ll be joining you on the path to fulfilling your purpose; maybe it will be supporting you while she looks to you for support to fulfill her own. But either way, you’ll be hard pressed to find a quality woman if you don’t understand who you are and you aren’t trying to find out why you’re here.
#6: Warmth
I know that there’s a belief among men that girls only go for guys who are assholes. But if you read the post that I just linked, Chase is specific in mentioning that you can’t be an asshole for no reason. Those are the kinds of people that everyone just loathes.
Being an asshole is just another way of saying that you’re in control. Whether he’s putting himself out there or drawing in a woman to put herself out there, the asshole is always in control in terms of what he gives out to other people.
That being said: someone who is in control and genuinely cares about others is considered warm. And warmth is what women truly want.
Women want a man who won’t be pushed around by other people, but will treat people with care and empathy – and that goes especially the lovers in his life. They want a man who knows how to connect with people, and they want a man they can tell their friends about to make them jealously swoon.
#7: Byronic
Women want men who are strong, confident and dominant, no doubt. But they also want their man to be vulnerable, empathetic and flawed. There’s an interesting article about how people who make mistakes are actually much more likeable: check it out here.
This is because as human beings, we can’t relate to perfection. So though we may admire people who seem to have everything going for them, we can’t actually connect with them. And if there’s anything you want to do with a girl, it’s connect with her in every sense. Women want to be able to peel away your layers and reveal a man that they understand fully.
Wrapping Up
It’s not especially difficult to avoid the pitfalls that put women off. And it’s also very manageable to embrace the qualities that women actually want. The men women want are:
*Independent
* Confident
* Sexy
* Sociable
* On a mission
* Warm
* Byronic
Like anything in life, knowledge is power. If you understand what you’re aiming for and you know what you have to do to get there (i.e., read this site and go out there and get experience), then you’ll inevitably find success with time.
And hey, you might even find the girl of your dreams!
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