Stop Girls From Flaking On Dates By Doing THIS

Dealing with girls flaking on dates is a problem that most men end up having to deal with.

And it can be a very frustrating problem indeed.

There is nothing worse than meeting a new girl you like…

talking to her and building a powerful emotional connection with her…

getting her phone number, followed by you successfully texting her, and then…

Having her flake on your date or not even warn you and choose just to not show up at all.

This is the point where most men end up getting angry and hating women and even sometimes give up learning how to pick up women altogether.

But… the problem sounds much more worse than it really is. And in fact, there is an easy and very simple way for you to stop girls from flaking on your dates entirely.

As a matter of fact, if you can simply follow this one simple easy-to-do strategy, you will NEVER again have to worry about a girl flaking on you for whatever reason.

Why Do Girls Flake On Dates in the First Place?

Girls flake on dates for MANY different reasons and trying to guess and pinpoint the exact reason for a girl flaking on a date is usually in my personal opinion, a complete waste of your time.

Girls flake, it is simply in their nature to flake, and trying to figure out exactly WHY they do it will leave you scratching your head for days.

But… there is an easy way for you to stop girls from flaking on the dates that they have with YOU.

How to Stop Girls From Flaking On Your Dates

Here is how to stop girls from flaking on the dates that they have with you:

On the day that you have the date scheduled with a new girl, text a girl 30 minutes the before the date to inform her that you are going to be running 30 minutes late.

And that’s it. You do THIS to save yourself both time and energy from worrying about whether or not a girl will flake on the date that she has planned with you.

This strategy works for 2 very simple reasons:

1)      By texting a girl 30 minutes before the scheduled date, you give her a chance to tell you whether or not she actually plans on flaking on the date that she has scheduled with you to begin with.

2)      And this is the main reason: By you texting a girl 30 minutes before the date to tell her that you are going to be running 30 minutes late, she will be less likely to actually flake on you in the first place.

Here’s why: A lot of the times, the reason why women flake on dates is because they are afraid (and have a fear) of YOU flaking on them.

Yes, contrary to popular opinion, women themselves get flaked on a lot by other men and girls end up dealing with this by flaking on you before you have a chance to flake on them.

Many girls will do this in order to protect their emotions and prevent themselves from becoming too emotionally attached to any one particular man.

Here are some OTHER common reasons why girls will sometimes flake on the dates that they have with you:

They fear that you don’t like them as much as they like you.

You have not established a deep enough emotional connection with them.

They want to avoid being seen as “too easy to get with”.

They never really was all that interested in meeting up with you to begin with.

They have fears about you kidnapping and murdering them (yes, this one is true)

She has a boyfriend that she hasn’t told you about and does not feel that confident cheating on him

Many other various reasons…

Never Get Flaked On Again

Using this strategy of texting girls 30 minutes before your scheduled date with them in order to inform them that you are going to be running 30 minutes late will prevent you from ever getting flaked on by a girl again.

How come?

Because if a girl plans on flaking on you she will let you know ahead of time using this strategy.

If she responds to your text message by telling you that she isn’t really interested in seeing and meeting up with you, you lose nothing because you never left your house to see her yet in the first place.

If she responds to your text message and tells you that she will save a seat for you, you go on your planned first date with her as if nothing even happened and you focus on making out with her and escalating to sex quickly.

It’s a win – win.

Using THIS strategy, you will NEVER have to worry about girls flaking on you again, you will never have to deal with being stood up on dates again, and you can operate confidently knowing that you now have the distinct and unique ability to stop girls from ever flaking on you again.

How to Meet Girls During the Day (and Effortlessly Attract Them)

When many men think of meeting girls the first place that comes to mind is the nightclub where they can get drunk and use liquid confidence to their advantage.

Getting drunk doesn’t allow you to improve and you can barely talk in nightclub settings. The girls there have the attention span of a fly and there bitch shields are extremely high and alert; most of the time, they won’t even let you speak.

There are cock-blocking gay friends, friend zoned guys, and sometimes even the girl’s girlfriends.

If a guy goes to a nightclub to find a new girlfriend for a serious monogamous relationship he must be completely messed up in the head.

Most girls at nightclubs are full of themselves and completely messed up in the heads. Almost all girls at a nightclub are there for attention and to get drunk. Some might be there to get laid but that’s it. They are not there hoping to find a new boyfriend that they may get engaged to in the future.

There are many negative things in a nightclub that you don’t have to deal with when you are learning how to meet girls during the day time. In the day, girls are not expecting an approach so their bitch shields are low. They will most likely be nicer and more receptive to your approach.

The fact that you’re confident enough to approach during the day without alcohol will be a HUGE turn on for them; makes it so much easier when girls just get attracted to the fact that you approached during the day. It shows a lot of confidence because you are comfortable with approaching during the day where there are unwritten rules about not approaching girls and everyone stares if you do.

If you can get past the opener then all you have to do is tease her a little and have a conversation with her. Girls love to talk and they like it better when they can tell who the person they are talking to is.

In nightclubs the girl is usually drunk and it’s too dark to clearly see people’s faces and if you can’t see the girl’s face clearly, how do you know she’s hot?

Usually men will not approach a woman during the daytime which makes your approach a lot more special and it’s something that she will remember. All women have this dream of being swept off their feet during the day. They want a handsome man to walk up to them, meet them, and make them wet when they are out doing their daily chores. 

Women respect daytime approaches more than approaches during the night. The reason for this is because most men who approach at night are usually douchebags, players, and pick up artists; not an alpha male who has his life together.

Usually the only men strong enough, mentally and emotionally, will approach during the daytime so it clearly sets you apart from all the other men in her life.

Day game is not all sunshine and rainbows, but it can be a bit harder than night game at times.

Many men, who start off trying to seduce women, start in the night clubs (mainly because of the alcohol but there are some men who start off by doing day game). Usually it’s because they might be too young to go to nightclubs or they don’t have enough money to constantly buy drinks and pay the cover fee; I was one of them.

Day game was like a roller coaster ride for me with a huge amount of success (I considered number closes to be successes at the time) and then kept going down for a long time until I pulled out and finally it started going up at a steady pace.

I still remember my very FIRST approach:

I was extremely nervous and didn’t even know how to hold a conversation. Even with all that the huge increase in heart rate, I still went up to her and told her I liked her hair. From there I started talking for a while and asked her if she was going to the school dance (I was in high school). She said she might and we started talking a little bit about what I was going to wear.

Then nervously I asked for her number and she told me to give my number to her; which I did. I never got a text or a call from her but that’s when it all started and I’m happy she never contacted me again because if she did then I wouldn’t be where I am right now.

Approaching during the day is not difficult once you get over the fear of women. It all comes down to how much you believe in yourself. One thing you should know is that you will never get over the fear of women completely. It will always be there but it will be so miniscule that you won’t even notice it after enough approaches.

Day game is similar to night game; the only difference is there is no alcohol. Alcohol is no good for improvement anyways because you can’t remember what you did.

My simple way of meeting women during the day starts off with a compliment (for beginners) or a comment/ question (for men with some experience).

The reason why I don’t use compliments anymore is because it puts her at a higher value in her mind and she thinks of you as a typical guy. I mean think about it; does a king ever compliment his workers unless they deserve it?

Obviously not so I don’t compliment them unless they do something I like. Then I follow a simple model of say something, keep saying something, joke around, and lead her to the next stage.

To go into detail with this, you can ask either an open ended question like “what are you doing today?” or make an assumption “you look like you are coming back from a concert or something; just look at the way you are dancing around”.

Then you can continue the conversation with more open ended questions, comments, and all of this must be done while teasing her.

Day game is not complicated; actually it’s extremely easy to get started with. Day game mastery however, is extremely hard but is definitely worth pursuing in the end.

Until next time,

some Reasons Why High Quality People Won’t Even Date You

You’re Boring

• Your pictures are repetitive, predicable, and offer no mystery or excitement.

Fix: Get better pictures of you doing better things, or unique shots. Mirrors, webcam, nightclubs… boring. Professional/model shots or you playing tug of war with a kitten? Winning. Even a picture of you just hanging out is good.

• Your messages are generic and uneventful. Entire messages comprised of only: “Hey, Hi, Sup, How r u, UR CUTE, What do you like to do, K, Sure, Neat, lol, yes” are guaranteed a 0 response unless your picture is really sexy/exciting, which leads to checking out your profile, which better be amazing. Likelihood of that happening: near absolute zero.

Fix: Say something fun, but don’t try too hard. Keep it simple at first, but be creative. If you’re not creative, just be honest without being weird or desperate. If you can’t, practice not being needy and creepy first. Some people can’t type to save their life, so if that’s you, give them your number and talk.

• Your profile is dull. It doesn’t have to be a lot, or magical, or even exciting… but it does have to show some personality. If online profiles are any indicator, most people have deathly boring personalities. If that’s not accurate, too bad — that’s all anybody has to go by. Likewise, clothing and style plays the same role. Even shoes, jeans, and a white tee can be sexy and stylish — it’s not about fancy. Also, dull stares and uneventful faces. Emote for heaven’s sake!

Fix: Develop a better personality and learn to communicate it. Develop your own style that’s congruent with your life.

• Your conversations are boring. You don’t add any value to the conversation, you have no imagination, your questions are lame, and pretty much the whole topic is trying to pull nails out of a gorilla… which would actually be more fun. You wouldn’t believe how many gorgeous women fail this (yes, it’s a test, and a deal breaker), and how many average-looking women I’ve picked because they were a blast to hang out with. If you can’t be playful and imaginative in a conversation, it’s over before it began. If I ask you what your secret agent name is or what super power you’d pick, and you don’t reply or just say IDK… you are a brick. You likely won’t enjoy day dreaming awesome adventures with me, and you likely will not partake in any sexy role-plays. Sorry, but you’re no fun, and fun = sexy.

Fix: Read good books, go on crazy adventures, learn new things. Watch things like TED talks. Becoming an interesting person is simple: always be doing interesting things. These are things you don’t hear about everyday, or wouldn’t seem likely for somebody like yourself to do. Talk about grand ideas, minimize the gossip, and ask questions that mean something.

2. You’re Unattractive

• You have unattractive habits like chain smoking, doing meth, bullying others, or kicking puppies. You have unruly acne, “skin conditions”, poor hygiene, or are obese. You use excessive make up or camera angles and crops to hide it. Physical health is a massive component of beauty. There’s a difference between “curves” and “fat”, and a lot of women and men happen to be more than just curvy. Perfection not needed — heath, very much so. This is wired biologically and has helped evolutionarily, so don’t blame people for being superficial when they don’t want to make love to somebody who might engulf them. I do not believe in encouraging harmful body images, nor do I in helplessness. Anything we can create in ourselves we can heal. I’ve seen and heard it all; your excuses are irrelevant. If you’re not motivated to go to the gym or eat right, how the hell are you going to make a relationship with somebody else you have 0% control over work?

Fix: Get healthy, or at least be honest. We still love your charming personality, but most HQM are healthy and happy. They don’t date victims — so take responsibility to eat clean and exercise. You don’t have to be buff or a size 0, but tone, clear skin and face, stylish hair, and a happy smile are doable for us all. “I am less confident, attractive, and happy now that I’m healthy, clean, and fit.” — Said no one ever.

• Not my type. Nothing really wrong with you at all, there’s just no physical spark.

Fix: None likely, or possibly some other aspect of you is just irresistible. If you’re actually healthy and fit, you can find somebody that finds you attractive based on their preference and your ideal state, not your false sick self.

• You do weird, creepy, off-putting, socially awkward things. Also, dick pics or perversions off the bat? You should know better by now. Guys are usually more guilty of this than socially-aware women, however it’s not exclusive. HQM tend to know other high quality people and share a busy social life, and if you’re somebody that makes everyone uncomfortable, chances are that’s just not going to fly too well.

Fix: Learn about boundaries and social norms. You don’t have to fit into a perfect little mold, but there are basic social norms like personal space, touching, language, etc. that you should be aware of in relation to your mate’s circle. Stalking people is a no. Breathing on somebody’s face, no. Following people around, no. Staring like you want to wear somebody’s face as a costume, not that either Hannibal. Learn when getting sexual is desired and comfortable for the girl you’re with. Nervous, uncomfortable energy can be felt too – people don’t like to be around that. If you have to ask about these things, you likely are. It’s okay – have a good friend help point out the weird things you do that turn people off. And believe me, we all have our things. I’m all about fighting the good fight against culture, but you can rebel and still not be a creeper.

3. You’re Passionless

• You don’t have any dreams, visions, or major goals for your life or others. HQM are doing things with their lives and have passions, even if they’re not pursuing them. They have things that light them up besides TV shows, junk food, and drugs/alcohol.

Fix: Find your purpose, or something you’re passionate about in life. Share it with vigor! Encourage others to as well.

• You sex like a dead fish. You’re checked out during intimacy and don’t initiate anything. You’re slow to act and show little joy or even excitement around getting physical. Even talking about sex is a chore with you.

Fix: Stop being so damn depressed, guilty, or shy. If you don’t know what to do, go learn to be great inbed . If you’re shy, develop your confidence. At the very least, find a reason to be happy to be alive. Be around things that inspire you. Develop a healthy relationship around your sexuality.

4. You’re Effortless

• You don’t put effort into meeting, conversations, or any form of communication. This usually means you’re either intimated, shy, confused, busy, disrespectful, playing games, or completely non-interested. As you can tell this creates much confusion, which most HQM don’t have time for.

Fix: Engage. If you like the person, put some effort into the conversation. You don’t have to be needy, but if you’re chatting… chat. If not, then leave. Respect their time, or they won’t give you anymore of theirs. If you’re not interested, do nothing further.

• You don’t put any effort into bettering yourself. HQM are called “high quality” for a reason, and likely put time into bettering themselves and others, so they expect the same from you. Too much to ask for? Lower your standards then, because they won’t.

Fix: Actually put effort into improving your life, in all areas. You’re not stuck at what you think you are now. If more people followed this instead of being a victim and complaining they can’t find the man/women of their dreams, more would find somebody closer to their dreams.

• Too much effort. I know, contradictory, but replying to a “Hello, how are you?” with 6 paragraphs with links and 3 post-scripts is scary. This can often lead to the next point. So, 2 year anniversary? Lots of heartfelt effort. 1^st conversation about cats? Leave 5 sourced-excerpts of Wikipedia out of it, please.

Fix: Learn to control your excitement. This one has been big for me, as it was rare that I found somebody I can actually relate to, I now personally have more tolerance. But for women who get 50 messages a day (yes, literally), it’s impossible to even comprehend reading so much from somebody she doesn’t even know who’s trying to connect both of your life stories through an alignment of Jupiter 173 years ago to the coincidence of a divine sign that…

5. You’re Crazy

• YOU TALK LIKE DIZ ALL THE TIME!!!!!! NO PPL ARE alLoWeD WHO CANT CnTrL COMMUNICATION.….….……

I personally read this as somebody who’s likely bat-shit crazy. Call me superficial, but I couldn’t date somebody who messages me like this all the time — I’d go crazy. I have found poor chosen typing skills (people that purposely go against the structure of language) typically indicate erratic forms of behavior. This is also similar to things handwriting analysis reveals, but on a different medium to a lesser extent,

Fix: Seriously? For cereals? Stop typing like an idiot – it’s not cute or clever, and nobody will take you seriously. My brain hurts already; stop yelling and close your thought. You don’t have to be impeccable. Type for the respected medium, but this goes back to the “Effort” section as well. Oh, and all HQM find everyday intelligence sexy (not necessarily book smarts).

• Red flags. What are red flags? Things that come in conversation or profiles that indicate you’re likely to be a problem, cause problems, or have Mr. Problem show up uninvited to your door while we’re having sexy rumpus time in your dungeon. Things like:

• excessive “ex” references
• many “harmless” obsessions
• downplays of compliments
• emotional manipulation, instability, overreactions
• daddy/mommy issues
• trust issues
• unresolved sexual traumas
• cyclical history of abuse (dating verbally or physically abusive people)
• working at Disneyland
• childhood fixations as an adult (see above)
• escapisms
• white lies
• binge drinking
• too-soons (I love you, let’s be BF/GF, marriage within days/weeks)
• little to no quality friends
• bitterness, anger, hostility, depression, jealousy, controlling, etc

Fix: If you’re throwing a fit right now about something on this list… this definitely means you. Get honest, get help, and deal with your shit. We have all gone through hell and back, some of us resolve and heal from our issues, and some don’t. It’s a choice. Decide to let go of your baggage and heal and learn from it. Perfection not needed, but there are major deal breakers that you just need to handle if you expect to have a prosperous relationship with your own “10”. Lovers are not therapy projects, you are not dating them to “save” or “change” them. Stop it. Save yourself first and foremost because your partner’s are not here to make you happy, whole, or complete either.

Conclusion

To some this post may seem obviously basic, to others it will be pompous and crass, and to others I hope a harsh wakeup call. I really can’t believe how many girls/women that I see online or in person that don’t get these simple things, and wonder why they are alone. It’s an unfortunate fact that most men AND women I encounter online (and discover quickly offline), don’t have most of these taken care of. Sometimes they do, but other things get in the way of communicating this, and we can’t blame others for the initial impressions we give them.
There are bigger reasons, greater purposes and missions, more important things in life than this — yes, I know. But everything I’ve recommended has not been about changing for another just to get a hotter date – it’s about become a better person first and foremost that will inherently attract higher quality people into your life. Which really in the end, makes the world a better place for all of us.
HQM isn’t a ranking of people, it’s deserving who you want. Faulty as assessing lovers on such criteria is, and as guilty as I am for having ridiculous standards — the underlining message in this post is about empowering others to become a better person that more people want to be with.
Everyone in the world can become a high quality person — it’s not comparative with others. A car can be high quality regardless of its price or if it’s a luxury SUV, a sports car, or a pickup truck. It’s how strong it’s built, how it performs, and how long it lasts safely. Becoming a better person doesn’t lower the quality of others around you, it only raises them up with you… and who doesn’t want to date somebody like that?
I’ve written this post to illustrate things I don’t see anybody frankly telling people in a way that’s not overly offensive or bitter. It’s not very politically correct, and I don’t like going around telling people they’re crazy or unattractive. But I’ve personally overcame each one of these points, and want to tell people they are not stuck getting poor dating results with people they’re not attracted to. That they are not hopeless and at the mercy of chance love. That they can start thinking different, acting different, talking different, and become an improved version of themselves, closer to their potential, which will attract others likewise into their dating experience which equally meet their own personal standards.
If you’re looking to become a higher quality person, living the life of your dreams, adding value to the world, and having an amazing love life, get in touch with me now to work one-on-one to help cultivate your ultimate self.